Back in the day I was known as Josie, the carefree chick that would come and go as I pleased, pretty outspoken, I lived by my own agenda and I certainly lived life to the fullest, doing everything and anything I wanted to do. I thought I was Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City, having a love for my friends, shoes, fashion and bags (I guess some things still haven’t and won’t change lol).
My mum Carmel divorced after 3 years of marriage and grew my sister and I up on her own. Mum taught me to stand up for myself and my beliefs as she did and had after her divorce and although she was my parent always telling me off for something, she was also my best friend through it all. There was nothing I’d hide from her cos she already seemed to know what I had done or what I was going to do lol. My sister Nancy was my little annoying and very well behaved sister up until the day she married, it was then she also became my best friend. She’s always been prettier, more sensible, a lot smarter and much more wiser than me, therefore looking up to her I do quite proudly. Without my mum and sister who knows where I’d be! The 3 of us are a force to be reckoned with and should anyone hurt or do wrong by either of us, well all I can say is good luck to you.. We stand united in every way and that’s purely because the three of us are so tightly bonded. People that know me may say I’m a tad spoilt and I’ll quietly say it’s true. I hate the word no and actually still do up until now lol. I somehow always manage to overturn a no into a yes and I’d have to say it’s one of my greatest abilities to date.
Whilst I tackled the highs and lows of life, I can confidently say I don’t regret any of it looking back. Those were the days I believed shaped me into the person I am today. Those were the days that made me strong as hell and those were the days that gave me the confidence and strength to tackle anything I didn’t stand for, that came my way. Don’t get me wrong, there was a sweet, down to earth, big heart of gold loving side to me but only those closest to me would see that vulnerable side.
Let’s fast forward to Josie 6 years ago, who decided after living a carefree and live for the moment kind of life wanted to meet someone, settle down and one day, maybe someday have children. I mean let’s put things in perspective here, cos it wasn’t going to be easy! I mean who at 36 years of age can easily find and get all that?
I had a friend say you need to go online to meet someone. I swear I laughed at her and was so quick to shoot the idea down thinking I would never ever put myself out there like that. I think I had heard too many horror stories regarding online dating that it scared me off, however it didn’t scare my friend off as she made me sign up just for a laugh.
I literally signed up on a Tuesday and by the Friday I decided I wanted no part in this stupid online crap. I had people offering me marriage on the first conversation and I was inundated with friends with benefit requests. On the Friday I was online trying to figure out in my settings how to completely deactivate my account when a message popped up. I gave it a glance thinking I’m deactivating so why not look. I saw a bald headed guy named Gary that kind of looked like my type ( I always went for bald and ruggered type of guys). I got a “hi, how are you” from this Gary guy and upon stalking his profile, I thought he looks ok for me to reply to. I completely zoned out in that moment after seeing his message, I needed to remember why I was online in the first place and that was to deactivate my account. I quickly jumped back on the reality wagon and thought how can I reply without deactivating this account, so I replied back with “hi, I’m well thanks but I’m only online to deactivate this account. If you want to really get to know me, you can do it the old fashioned way by calling me (I literally sent my mobile number) and just like that I sent the message. Within minutes I was able to deactivate my account with the hope I’d hear my phone chime with a message or even maybe a call from Gary.. Within half an hour, my mobile chimed with a message from Gary!!
To make a long story short, Gary and I got along well over the phone and via messaging each other through text. I really felt free and uninhibited when telling him what I wanted and needed in a relationship. I mean was it supposed to be that easy or was I allowing it to be hard all these years? After a couple of months of talking 2-3 times a day, Gary decided to ditch his Friday night boys night to keep me company whilst being home sick with a lupus flare (we can discuss my chronic illness in another blog). I was excited to finally meet him but scared at the same time! What if he wasn’t my type looks wise? What if his online photos weren’t up to date photos etc?
Upon getting that knock at the door, I eagerly and hesitantly answered.. I looked at the person I was so into over the phone and thought wow the eagle has landed lol. That night we broke the ice, got take out for dinner, talked, watched a DVD and found out we barrack for rival AFL teams.
After all that, I can enthusiastically tell you that it was that night that lead me to the crazy, quirky, demanding, frustrating, fun loving and out of control world I live in now with twin toddlers.
Moving forward with all this my blog is not only about life, it’s about being a wife and it’s about being a mum since having twin toddlers. It’s about the learnings I’ve come across that stand me here today, it’s about triumphs and it’s also about those real life struggles and defeats. Actually, this blog is about everything we as ladies, as wives and as mothers come across in everyday life. I hope you follow and I truly hope you enjoy.
Much love x
Life Wife and Twins